Why some men stray

This question has been done to death many times over. Why married men stray? Why do they have an affair? Why hurt someone dear to them? What drove them to do these things?

I believe I has an answer. There are many types of men who cheat on their wife. Some do it becouse they do not love their wife. Some becouse they want to feel the thrill of the "hunt", some becouse of the rush that comes from the risk of being discovered, some do it becouse it is the only way to clinched a deal of some kind. While some do it becouse they love their wife, and even some do it becouse even when they love their wife, they love the affair even more.

The last one is the one I'm talking about here. Picture this: You are a married man. You meet a women by chance one stormy night, and in the heat of the moment, you have sex. You know you've done your wife wrong, and you definately know this is not a desirable outcome, and yet, year after year, you met with the woman at the same day at the same place, to consumate your affair. You feel strongly for her, and yet at the same time, you love your wife, and are responsible to her, and the woman of your affair, she feels the same way about you too. Both you and the woman meet up every year for 30 years, always at the same day and at the same place. Is this an affair? Or a love story? Or "Friends with benefits"?

What if your are that women? What if you are that man? Put your feelings to the test. How do you feel? Would you continue the affair for 30 years? Meeting only 30 times? I've thought about this. I felt that this afafir is despicable. Think how the wife must feel. Think of how the husband must feel. Right off, if I'm the husband, I'd kill myself. However, putting myself in the adulterous' man shoe...I would do the same: continue the affair. What can you do when the love of your life is in love with you and another man, but chooses to marry the other man? In desperation, an affair would seems like the best way to "marry" her without marrying her.

Damn, I hate these kinds of thought experiments.