Relationship

I don't understand people sometimes. Especially people in a relationship, married or otherwise.

I was discussing our salaries with a couple of friends just now after work, and we digress into how we spend our money. I said that my friend has changed since he's spending more and more time at work rather than at home doing the things he like, and he goes like, "No money what to do?" I answered him, "Work say work lar, must enjoy also mah."

And the next thing I knew, he's saying something like you will get your comeuppance someday, and when you do, you will suffer like us also, with nary a penny to spend on yourself.

I was stunned to say the least. Notice the words he used. Suffer! Indeed!!! So I ask to him, why didn't you just break up and be single and enjoy all your obviously hard-earned money all on yourself then? He never reply because he doesn't have a good answer.

Why indeed? Why does married (or in this case, steady relationship) always talks about their relationship like it is some kind of a prison? A death sentence? A torture? If they feel that way, why did they even get into the relationship in the first place?

This question has been buggering me since time immemorial.