Confidence

It's a nasty word...for some anyway. For me...it is. Hahaha.

Let me tell you what happened...or didn't happen. Yes, this is yet another one of those boring stories of mine which more often than not really happens to me. So sue me because my life is so boring! :p

I just got back from work today, and I got me thinking, it's been a long time, a few days (I think), and I wanted to ask my friend out for a little dinner. Not tonight of course, but sometime down the weekend. But just as I was ready to dial her number, my fingers stopped in mid air, and I wonder to myself, "How should I sound across to her? Confidant? Reluctant? Expectant?" I answered myself, "With confidence of course!". This got me thinking into how or what should I say to pass me off as confident sounding, and I drew a blank.

If somebody on the street asked me what is the meaning of confidence, I'll laugh, look him in the face, and then just go blank, because I just realized, I have no idea what it means! Sure, I know it means something like believing that you are correct, or very sure you will win something or not afraid of the situation or something like that; but that didn't tell me what confidence mean. If I don't know what confidence mean in such a general sense, how could I be expected to be 'confident' when I'm talking to a women? Which, by the way, is the reason why I brought this up. And the question that brought this up will be revealed.....

Back to my story, what did I do? I SMS my friends, and to be fair in the assessment, I asked two of my female friends, and two of my guy friends. Three replied...hmmm, goes to show how important my SMS is to them...

Anyway, one of them replied something like these:
It mean don "uhhmm", no "uhh", no pauses in between, no eye looking elsewhere, don "ehh", sort of like tat la :), big body language mostly...

Well...do YOU know what he meant? I do...up until the "uhh" part. Beyond that, I have no idea.

So, from a women's perspective, what does being confident mean? By the way, the question I posed them was; "People say that when you're talking to a women, they like guys who are confident. What do they mean by this, 'confident'?"

Your take?